It's okay with yes and no. Growing in visionary power
“One must verify or expel his doubts, and convert them into the certainty of YES or NO.”
When is it good to say yes and when is it better to say no? How should we think about this in terms of the development of our visionary power, which is about personal growth? With Visionary People Mentoring we have a vision of what visionary power means for personal development.
Visionary People Mentoring is a collaboration of professionals who analyze stories of successful people who want to express themselves creatively about their ‘visionary power’. Visionary power, as defined by Visionary People Mentoring, is the ability that lies in the constructive vision we have for our lives that positively impacts others. We all have this ability, because everyone is a visionary. If we consciously live with this powerful ability, we will be successful in our lives and we will radiate this positively to others.
But this awareness and the success we strive for inevitably places us in situations where we face crucial choices, where it is often not easy to say yes or no, to include or exclude. It is important to think about these crucial choices. After all, our visionary power provides us with a positive and decisive vision on the life path we want to follow and on the challenges we face.
Our life path with its many challenges often leads us on the double path of a choice between yes and no. Our visionary power is that strong vibe that gives us a boost and puts and keeps our lives on the map. So: will it be a yes or a no? The answer to this question goes to the heart of visionary power and can be yes or no.
It's good to say yes if it changes your life for the better.
This is visionary power at its best. It is the belief that affirming what you are actually puts you on the right path.
This is a confident yes, not fearing anything, which means an embrace of your life. Here it is okay to say yes. It puts you in your comfort zone. It is your comfort zone, but never sterile, never without progress, without the opportunity to perfect your life.
With this confident yes you will embark on new experiments, enrich your life with fascinating experiences, and learn life lessons.
But don’t worry, you can perfectly say yes to your life vision before you have the right skills to achieve it. After all, it is precisely a hallmark of successful people that they do not doubt their ability to act at the right level to achieve their visionary goal. This is believing in your visionary power and clinging to it. I wish it to all of you, regardless of the challenges of your life. How many successful people have risen to the top of their vision after much adversity and failure, but always with the grace to never give up, to dive deeper into the source of their visionary power?
Saying yes to your vision is not a matter of just one time, but countless times, day in and day out. If you want to make this vision of life a success, you cannot change it, at most you can tighten it up a bit, but the path to achieving it can go in many directions. When you stop saying yes and walking your path, your vision also stops. So our reflective and proactive yes attitude is not about questioning our visionary power, but about how best to use that power. To put it figuratively, the urge of visionary power (saying yes to that power) should be seen as riders knowing how to control their racehorse to rush to the finish line and ultimately victory.
Another aspect teaches us that you first and foremost say yes to yourself, because it affects your own life. But you undoubtedly involve others in your life story and mission. In this way, your own yes becomes the vision of others, which in turn enriches, renews and boosts their lives. Confirming your personal vision is therefore always a service to the other. It is a direct contribution to a better world that starts from the visionary power of all of us.
Saying no from your visionary power
Why do many people not like to say ‘no’ why don't they like to exclude? Why do we feel better with a yes, with embedding?
People are afraid to say no because they don’t want to hurt the other person. But because a life without moments of no is inconceivable: how do we say best ‘no’? Strangely enough, we often don’t know how to deal with this little word to go.
However, saying no is simple and obvious if we do this from our own perspective of visionary power. Because saying no to what keeps us away from our visionary power always benefits to ourselves and the other. You can only be there for the other from the positive that you have to offer from your life.
But in a crisis situation or at a moment of challenge, which is still uncharted territory for us, we cannot always just say no without any consideration. In other words, our visionary power leads us not always simultaneously to a no that is good for us and the other. How greater the vision we have, and a vision of life is always great (strong), how the more we will have to travel, the more we will have to expose ourselves to life, to life experience and life wisdom.
Or, if something particularly grand or complex comes our way, we want to incorporate a time of considering. We may not know whether these situations immediately fit in our visionary strength, no matter how much we have a primary clarity in our lives about the road we want to walk.
It's also good to say no to so-called dream stealers, to people who break the vision of your life for no good reason. If here you don't say no, you lose all the visionary power you have. But it is true, on the other hand, that there are people who with constructive criticism can sharpen your visionary power. It is best to work with those people. Therefore, before to say no to criticism, it is good to check whether it wants to valorize you or precisely not.
Saying no to the other is ultimately best if you can say yes to the deepest core of yourself, to the source of your visionary power. This is no selfishness or self-centeredness, it should never be. It's not about using people until we no longer need them. It is therefore important to make it cautiously clear not to work with certain people for our vision of life. We can do this with a clear, firm and without apologize ‘no’ in the interest of developing our visionary strength. If we say no from this dynamic, we won't do so in avoidable ways, such as with defensive arguments or the appearance that the door to a ‘yes’ is still ajar. These kinds of arguments of weakness betray that we are not strong, that we doubt ourselves and ultimately our visionary power.
“Don’t say no when you want to say yes.”
It is therefore good that from the beginning of our relationships, whether amicable or business related, we expose the true core of our life drive. This requires trust and a certain caution, for people can break trust. But it's nice that we can set our limits through a constructive no attitude (with inevitable ‘exclusion’) that ultimately creates a circle of legitimate ‘equals’ who use their visionary power together. Because, if we want our life mission develop, then sooner or later we will be faced with the choice of who to take with us on our life path.
CONCLUSION. Growing in visionary power
In the vision of Visionary People Mentoring you achieve growth in visionary power, or personal development, by finding the right balance for yourself and for others in the yes-attitude and no-attitude. Both attitudes are important for our growth in visionary power. Both postures alternate according to the situations in our lives. It is a matter of making the right distinctions so that we grow together with others in visionary power and use it for a better world.
by Thierry Limpens - Update 13-8-2023